Finding your SOULMATE….

Sorry, this isn’t a post on how to find your future husband or wife. I am no Dr. Phil. And frankly, you shouldn’t be reading a blog trying to figure out how to find your one and only. If it has come down to that, you should really consider joining eHarmony. No one will judge you because the people that will know are the people that are already subscribed to the same dating site. Think about it…

This post is actually about finding “the one” job that makes your heart skip a beat, palms sweaty, and your face light up every time you think about what you would be doing 40+ hours a week for the rest of your life. Speaking from experience, finding a job is like finding your soulmate. You eagerly seek for “the one” when you graduate from school. Some people find themselves “falling in love” with just any job or convincing themselves that this job is “the one” when frankly, you can do so much better or you and that job just weren’t meant to be. And, sometimes when you “think” it is the “the one” you find out after 3-4 years that it just wasn’t meant to be. But you still learned invaluable lessons and you know that the next job will be that much better for you because you invested in the prior job. And when the time is right, you find the job that took your breath away, you grow old with your position, and you retire happily ever after.

Let me rephrase what I just said to support the similarity of the generic term “soulmate” and your professional “soulmate”:

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Kind of scary, isn’t it? But kind of true, right? Your first job and your first relationship require the same effort in terms of commitment, dedication, patience, and honesty. When you are looking for a job, you go on endless interviews, apply for multiple jobs in various industries, and you might even shed a tear or two when you don’t get the job. But eventually, you finally get the offer letter and your career path changes in an instant. Likewise, when you are looking for “the one”, you go on endless dates, meet various random people, and you might even shed a tear or two on those clowns that weren’t worth it in the first place. Then, you end up finding that one person that made it all worth it and your life dramatically changes in an instant.

You see, sometimes your “soulmate” turns into wedding bells and little mini-me’s; other times you just gain the appropriate experience that will get you to where you want to be. Needless to say, your relationship or job isn’t going to be all Louis Vuitton, Chanel, and Gucci. You’ll have your good days, but you’ll also have those days where you are sleeping on the couch, or leaving the office at 8pm. You never know what will happen but you found something that makes the endless hours worth it, so you keep going until you either put a “ring on it” or you call the quits and continue your quest for your fairytale ending. And no matter how long that takes, it is okay to change your mind because the term “soulmate” is so arbitrary that it doesn’t matter. I mean after all, you always have Monster.com or Match.com if the first few don’t work out. There are options and “the one” is out there. So, submit that resume or ask for his/her number. What is the worse that can happen? You are back to where you started. You lose nothing except maybe a little pride, but that can be repaired with a little Godiva and a lot of wine. You are still just as beautiful, smart, and independent even after they say “no” and that doesn’t change. In fact, it only gets better!

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